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Have you ever looked forward to fellowshipping with a group of Christians, only to find yourself ashamed and embarrassed to be thought one of them because they were so loud, rude, obnoxious or rowdy? The Bible has much to say about the tongue, but I believe a few verses will give a good indication of the heart of God on the matter.

To the females in the group God reveals in 1 Peter 3:4 that it is worth a huge price to Him for a young (or old) lady to have a meek (teachable, gentle, strength under control) and quiet spirit. Unless you have something important to share with a large crowd (like there’s a fire out of control or some other emergency), to be loud is selfish. We are saying, “Look at me! I am the important one here.” First Peter chapter three addresses wives who wish to help their husbands come to know Jesus Christ:

“Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation (behavior, manner of living) of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear (respect). Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.”

One note here–a quiet spirit is more than a quiet voice. I have known ladies who use a very quiet, almost mousy voice, who were extremely loud in that they were a forceful presence who got what they wanted–one way or another. It is of great price to God that we ladies have a meek and quiet spirit.

Also to ladies, in Proverbs 31 we find that the woman God considers to be a woman of character, a woman of virtue, opens her mouth with wisdom (not foolishness); and in her tongue is the law of kindness. I admit that I find it difficult to be kind when addressing issues of great importance to me; but God does not excuse me because I find it difficult. I must continue to work at it and ask forgiveness when I offend. Look at God’s instructions to all of us in Colossians 4:6:

“Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.”

We ought to make what we have to say palatable. Oooh, I have to work on this! What is a gracious person like? That is what our speech is to be.

Ephesians chapter five says:

“Be ye therefore followers of God as dear children: And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweetsmelling savor. But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not once be named among you, as becometh saints; Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient: but rather giving of thanks.”

If we are saved we are to avoid foolish talk and coarse jokes. God wants our words to be meaningful. He says in Matthew 12:36 that we will give an account for every idle word that we speak. Idle words are useless, unnecessary, careless.

“But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgement.”

We can see that the heart of God desires the words of his children to be words of value.

Many of us are in the habit of trying to trick someone and then saying, “Just kidding!” Proverbs 26:18 and 19 say:

“As a mad man who casteth firebrands, arrows, and death, So is the man that deceiveth his neighbor, and sayeth, Am not I in sport?”

Jesus instructs us to mean what we say:

“But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay.”

Say what you mean. Mean what you say.

Let’s allow our speech and manner of life to say to all, “I belong to Christ.”